I wanted to take minute this wonderful Saturday, as you wildly prepare for all things Christmas, as you wrap the last dozen or so gifts *or toss them in a bag, there is no judgement here* and ask you a question. 

If you would, take a moment to ponder with me over the holidays and before the start of a new year. 

How did you do?

How did this year go for you in terms of getting that list of resolutions or big S-T-R-E-T-C-H goals accomplished. Did you invest more time in your family like you wanted to? Did you chip away at your debt this year? Are you bigger or smaller around the waist than you were this time last year (spoiler alert – I am WAY bigger this year). 

If you were to sum up the past year in one word, what would it be?

I actually feel really bad asking because I know, if you are anything like me, you will see the accomplishments and feel great … for a moment. 

And then, you’ll recount every dream you let go of. Every wisp of hope that you let slowly fade through your fingers – or maybe there are things that you up and ran away from because they were hard

If you’re like me, it will be easier to identify the things that you didn’t do and you may want to sit and wallow – which is NOT what I want from you over the holidays. 

What I want for you is, for every dream you let dim this year, for every goal that you were once PASSIONATE about but didn’t chase, I want you to evaluate them and ask yourself, “what WOULD have happened if I just didn’t quit?”

How much closer to writing that first book would you be? 

How much could you have paid down your debt – or SAVED if you had stuck with your guns? 

How much STRONGER would you be if you just kept up with that workout routine or healthy eating plan you initially thought would be the game changer, if you just kept at it?

What if THIS year, your only goal was to keep at it? To reclaim those prior ambitions and determine to keep going, just don’t quit. 

What would that mean in your marriage, your health, your motherhood journey? For your bank, your waist line, your ZEST for life? 

If everyday you woke up and asked yourself, “what if I just don’t quit?” 

Because you know what it feels like to fall off the wagon, to fail, to flounder and to feel like others are passing you by. You’ve done that, you spent the whole last year doing that in one way or another. This year, this could be YOUR year, if you are just willing to keep going. 

And I’m not talking about waking up everyday with a sprinters passion for accomplishing all the things, all the time. What I am talking about is simple, run, walk, or crawl if you have to but do NOT quit. 

Not on yourself, not on your children, not on your marriage. Your goals, your future, those BIG, audacious plans that you have << you know the ones, the ones you told someone about one time and they LAUGHED at how “out there” they were, those PLANS are written on your heart by a God who loves you more than you will ever know. Those wild and crazy dreams were woven into your existence by a God who is capable of speaking the world into existence. 

So don’t quit. 

Don’t give up on those dreams, not this time. And let’s resolve – if it’s the only resolution we make – that we will not quit. 

Are you in?

Spring Ready Body

Spring has sprung and it is time to put away the winter coats and boots (almost, I meant it is still a risk that you might get caught in 6 inches of snow). It’s that crazy transition time when the weather is slightly above freezing and every Canadian is out in shorts, a t-shirt and their cracking Birkenstocks from three years past. Everyone and their brother is soaking in the “heat” as our bodies accustom to the changes in season. As more skin shows, more self doubt sets in (am I right mommies). Here is my simple tip for ROCKING your mom bod this spring!

Just 5 More Minutes

Jumping out of bed with joy and pep seems impossible as a mom who is knee deep in the trenches of sleep feedings and nightmares.

Starting your day with intention and a plan, heck, setting an alarm, seems like a practice in futility when your children will – GUARANTEED – wake up before anything and throw your good intentions out the window faster than that last precious moment of peaceful slumber.

Why though?

What’s stopping us from starting right as mothers?

Chore Charts – Your Husband NEEDS one

Chores are exactly that, a CHORE.

It doesn’t help when your husband is forever asking, “what needs to be done?”

Because SCREAMING, “Can’t you SEE what needs to be done?” isn’t recommended, here is a tip that is simple, effective, and – well – a NO BRAINER … if we are willing to rethink it.

Chore Charts!

Coconut Oil – “I Put that $#!+ on Everything”

I always knew you could use coconut oil in cooking as a healthy alternative, I even found a number of modern applications for it in our home health care routine but when my midwife suggested it could help spice up our sex life I … cringed.

First of all, I had dropped a clue I hadn’t expected … our sex life felt like it was on life support with a DNR more than it did a couple in love. Second, admitting that we might need a boost felt like admitting my lady bits didn’t operate as well as they used to.

Admitting I am getting older and that there are fault lines appearing in our marriage.